Are you feeling like something is wrong in your relationship? Could you and your partner use some help understanding and working with one another? You and your partner may benefit from seeing a relationship therapist. Here are five struggles you may be facing that point to the reality that couples counseling is the right move to save your relationship.
Communication Bust
Communication is crucial to a great relationship. Do you often feel like your partner isn't listening to you? Do you feel like your partner gets upset about things you didn't realize were an issue? If you and your partner aren't understanding each other, you need to find out the reasons behind the gap.
Sometimes couples really want to communicate, but they find that their communications styles are very different. You may think you're expressing your needs when it reality you are simply frustrating your partner.
A relationship therapist can help you discover how you each communicate and how you can make changes to your communications style that will help you relate better to each other. That way you can truly begin to build on what is positive about your relationship.
Dissatisfaction With Your Sex Life
Sex doesn't seem like such a big deal when things are going well, but a bad sex life poisons the entire relationship.
There are many reasons why sex becomes an issue in relationships that once had passion and romance. Some are as simple as becoming too familiar with each other and forgetting to add that spark to the relationship. Other reasons are biological, psychological or even social. Sometimes one partner wants sex a lot more than the other and feels rejected if the interest isn't reciprocated. Other times one partner is feeling overwhelmed with life and just can't find the energy for sex.
If you and your partner are no longer connecting on a sexual level, it can help to talk to someone about what is going on.
Secret Keeping
Secrets will tear a relationship apart. If you have a secret you won't communicate with your partner or if you've discovered that your partner has been keeping an important secret from you, a relationship counselor can help you get to the bottom of it and then work on your issues with trust and honesty.
Cheating
When one person has cheated on the other physically or emotionally, it is often a death blow to the relationship. But some couples do come back stronger than ever after infidelity. If you are ready to give a partner who has cheated a second chance, you'll want the help of a professional.
Unhealthy Arguing
Everyone has disagreements, but sometimes those arguments can lead to more serious problems. If you and your partner argue in a way that leaves one or both of you feeling judged, angry or even abused, you need to seek the help of a relationship therapist who can teach you how to argue correctly.
If one of these five relationship killers is present in your relationship, there is help. Make an appointment with a relationship therapist (such as Howard Rossen) who can help you and your partner understand each other. It may just be the key to turning things around.
Share14 September 2016
When I initially started the therapy process about 10 years ago, I didn't take the time to scout out the right counselor. Instead, I just went to the first counselor that my doctor recommended, and the experience was less than enjoyable. I realized that I might need to do a little research to find the right counselor for me, so I took the time to carefully evaluate my needs and research different clinics in my area. I was able to find an amazing counselor who really seemed to have it under control, and it was incredibly beneficial to see the difference that it made. This blog is all about finding the right counselor.
